I am a helper at heart; I have worked for thirty years in the field of mental health because, essentially, I want people to be healthy and happy. I want to help reduce suffering, not contribute to it. So I find it difficult when a client leaves a consultation with me feeling worse than when they came.
One client came for consultation wanting to know if the proverbial pot of gold was waiting for him at the end of the rainbow. He was hanging his hopes on this treasure that he believed was on its way to him.
I asked him to consider what it would mean for him if we proceeded with consultation and the answer was 'No'. Was he prepared for that possibility? He thought he was, and so we proceeded.
Well, guess what? The answer was 'No'. Despite having said that he was prepared for a 'no' answer, my client did not take it well.
I came away from this experience with the conviction that some questions are not meant to be asked. I’m talking about the really big things, the stuff that dreams are made of: the top job, the knight in shining armor, the winning ticket, the mansion overlooking the ocean. The 'happily ever after.' The breakthrough that would transform your life if it happened. The thing you’d ask for if a genie appeared and offered to grant you a wish.
Do you really want to ask about that big dream? Imagine getting 'No' for an answer. No, you won’t get that dream job. Your business will never take off. You’ll be single for the rest of your life. The money will never come.
How would you respond to hearing that? What effect would this have on your well-being?
If hearing 'No' would break your spirit, put out your fire, or take away your hope, then please: don’t ask! I believe that hope is precious and must be safeguarded.
Our dreams are part of who we are at our core, in our heart. Maybe the very seeking of a dream leads you to other things along the way, beautiful and important things that you’d miss if you were to give up or turn away. You never know what people you might meet, lessons you might learn, or other passions you might discover in the pursuit of a dream.
Consider also: maybe life really is about the journey and not the destination!
I believe that some things are not meant to be known ahead of time. Perhaps this is why the seers in film are often depicted as ugly and horrible. (Consider the oracles in The 300 or the witches in Clash of the Titans to understand what I’m talking about.)
The fact that we can, and do, make accurate predictions using horary astrology is a remarkable gift. Let's use it wisely!
The photo used above is by Pip R. Lagenta, "The Lamp." Source: Flickr. Used under a Creative Commons License.